Pregnancy can cause stress in any relationship, and it's a common trigger of domestic violence. Domestic violence is a pattern of assault and coercive behavior, including physical, sexual and psychological attacks, as well as economic coercion that adults use against their partners.
Look around, you will find plenty of resources out there to help you replace the doctor with your good old self. There are TV shows, books, apps and all manner of self-proclaimed gurus with handy advice on self-doctoring. Well, you can look these up and decide whether doctoring yourself is something you may want to take up. And if you end up taking it up, remember it’s not a hobby, you’d be getting into serious stuff.
It goes without saying that if you are the one suffering an acute illness, you wouldn’t want any delays in your treatment. You must also look at it the other way, meaning you should never be in the way of those requiring urgent care in EDs. You should therefore try your level best and avoid unnecessary ED visits when all you have are minor ailments that can wait. We are talking of simple things like minor coughs and colds, the odd headache, or minor bruises. Non-urgent ED visits tend to deflect focus from more deserving patients, cause crowding and contribute to endless complaints about the service.
You have a genuine reason to get concerned after having failed to conceive for 3 years. One year is considered as the minimum period that should have elapsed prior to couples getting concerned about a potential delay in conceiving. However very young couples like yourself could always give themselves extra time, as most would still conceive within 2 to 3 years without resorting to fertility treatment.